Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is the ability to identify, use, understand, and manage emotions in an effective and positive way. And, in many organizations around the world, it is on the rise! Contrary to popular belief, The Millennials, Generation Y, and Gen Next (those engrossed by tablets and screens) hold, on average, higher EQ levels than generations before them. In the business environment, researchers discovered that average EQ scores increase the higher in an organization a person is, up to middle-management.
Surprisingly, EQ levels drop sharply when you go above middle-management and what is more surprising, CEOs, typically have lower EQ scores than the lowest-ranked employees.
Trends suggest increasing CEO pay, a lack of emotionally connecting with employees, and even embezzlement are significant factors in these results.
With the demand for high EQ leaders increasing, what should future leaders consider when in pursuit of developing the most desirable leadership tenet of them all? Below, I have taken from Daniel Goleman, an American Psychologist, five elements that define EQ. However, first, I would like to explain some of the benefits of developing high EQ:
On to those elements which define EQ:
1. Self-awareness
Leaders with high EQ understand their emotions, and they do not let their feelings rule them. They know their strengths and weaknesses, and they work in these areas so they can perform better.
What to work on to improve self-awareness:
2. Self-regulation/management
Self-regulation or self-management is the ability to control emotions and impulses. Leaders who self-regulate typically don’t allow themselves to become too angry or jealous, and they do not make impulsive and careless decisions. They think before they act.
What to consider to improve self-management:
3. Motivation
Leaders with high EQ are willing to defer immediate results for long-term success. They are highly productive, enjoy a challenge, and are effective in whatever they do.
What to strive for when improving motivation:
4. Empathy
Empathy is the ability to identify with and understand the wants, needs, and viewpoints of those around you. Empathetic leaders avoid stereotyping and judging too quickly, and they live their lives in an open, honest way.
Here are some highlights of leaders who exercise a high empathy characteristic:
5. Social skills
Leaders with strong social skills are more often team players. Rather than focusing on their success, they help others to develop and shine. They can manage disputes, are excellent communicators, and are masters at building and maintaining relationships.
Building on your social skills is a critical component in the makeup of a high EQ score, here is what to consider:
How to develop EQ
So what methodologies can we exercise to develop EQ? Well, you must start by being human. Don’t lock yourself away or become disconnected from others. Find ways to enjoy being around people you work with including those in lower-ranking positions. Treat people with equality no matter what and try to consider things from the other person’s perspective. Look beyond people’s prejudices and develop emotional attachments and where appropriate share your emotions and welcome other’s emotions.
Voltaire once said, to understand all is to forgive all!
Limiting negative emotions is essential. Consider your flaws and others POV and seek out the positives in others. Understanding people as they are is also key. There are roughly 7 billion people on the planet, and no one is the same – understand yourself and learn to appreciate others will have different views and opinions.
Dale Carnegie wrote in How to win friends and influence people – “Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”
Developing a high EQ requires you to limit stress and maintain calm. Stressful situations occur, limit them by being calm and rational in your thinking and planning. It is essential to prevent building up stress, manage stress as soon as possible, tackle problems head-on, and as early as you possibly can. Try to expect the unexpected or at least in every process consider what if – you actually can manage everyone’s expectations, even if you cannot satisfy them. Approach stresses with courage and determination.
Expressing emotions will help you to build your EQ. An unexpressed emotion can become toxic and harmful; it is important to vent if you must, but vent correctly and with control. Learn to express your opinion in a way that others will understand and appreciate – you can improve this by asking people for feedback. Emotionally connecting with people and developing deeper bonds will significantly help you in the pursuit of a higher EQ.
Be and think positively. You have the power to consider things from a positive or negative perspective. Everyone has good and bad days, focusing on negative thoughts will expose you to depression and anxiety. By focusing on positive things, you encourage happiness and satisfaction.
You never fail, you learn. Failure is apart of life, dwelling on failure is like focusing on negative thoughts – if you do it too long, it can become toxic. Don’t let it disturb you for too long. Learn your lessons from failure and move on. Next time you will win.
Dream! Hope for the best in life but know you must do everything you can to achieve it. Accept that there will be disappointments along the road but continue to believe in what you hope and dream for.
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